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Expats Lessons After Moving Overseas: The Challenges You Will Face

Death By Culture Shock

Kat Kalashian by Kat Kalashian
Dec 11, 2020
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Yesterday, I told you about two of the biggest things I’ve learned through my international moves and experiences as an expat.

We covered what you should take with you and what stays behind… as well as how to adjust to your new environment. (If you missed that first installment, you can catch up here.)

Today, we’re going to move on to the next two things that you’ll need to tackle as you settle into your new life as an expat…

3. Adjustment To Culture

“Sorry we're closed” sign hanging on a cafe window.
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I’m talking about getting used to the people and the way they live.

How friendly do they seem? Is small talk done or not? Meal times are likely to be different.

The French have set meal times: lunch at 12, a snack at 4 or 5 p.m., dinner no earlier than 8 p.m. It’s hard to find food between 2.30 and 5 in France, so you have to make sure you don’t miss lunch.

Spaniards might not sit down for dinner until 10 p.m.

Business hours can be erratic, too. In Europe, the lunch hour is still worthy of closing for. Many regions all over the world still practice siesta hours, working until lunch and then closing until early evening.

In Europe and Latin America, no work is done on Sunday. In Europe, banks might open for a half-day on Saturday if you’re lucky.

In Latin America, working on Saturdays can be the norm. I’m not talking about the service industry; I mean office workers.

The rest of the world does holidays differently, too. Most of Europe shuts down for the month of August, and everyone vacations.

In France, school holidays are six weeks on and two weeks off, so many families travel every six weeks. The rest of the world not only uses all their vacation days, it would never occur to them to work through a holiday.

And, of course, you’re often going to be living in a new language in your new home.

Another of the big culture shocks that you’ll face just about everywhere in the world? The customer is not king. Customer service is at its best in the States, and can be non-existent in other countries. This is a gross generalization, but you take my point.

When it comes to adapting to culture, just be flexible and lighten up. It’s advice I wish I could better take. Get out of your head, don’t take yourself, others, or interactions so seriously. Just take it all as it comes. And laugh at yourself.

Which brings me through to the final point—the goal of all this…

4. Appreciating The New

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Everything you went through was to get to the good part.

Honestly, it will likely take more than a year for you to really, truly, fully appreciate your new life.

Thinking it through, I’d say in the first 12 months living in a new place, you go through all the stages of a rollercoaster relationship. You arrive in the honeymoon phase, and everything has a shiny gleam to it. Everything is novel and fun and reality hasn’t quite sunk in. That can last anywhere from, say, a week to three months, depending on how much you try to accomplish right off that bat.

Then, from months three to nine, give or take, you might really question this whole thing. In my metaphor, these are the divorce hearings. You wonder how you could have ever been so crazy as to move here. Why had you ever thought this charming? You start to doubt it all. You might even start to look into moving back. Or at least think about it.

But if you stick it out a few months longer, you pull through to the other side. And you realize one day, in a flash of a moment while doing the most mundane of things, that you are blissfully happy. You look up at the architecture or you see a parrot in a tree or whatever it is that reminds you like a lightning bolt why you fell in love in the first place. And you can’t help but smile.

I waited over a decade to return to Paris, the city I love most in the world. When I did, I’d moved a half dozen times, across continents and oceans, and I had gone through all these stages in each place. I felt prepared, like I knew what to expect. I never thought I would feel that what-have-I-done panic about moving back to Paris… but I did.

I should have known you can never escape that would-be regret. I now think it’s inevitable.

I had only been here five months before I found myself pregnant. I intended to have our lives more set up before we threw that spanner in the works. And my pregnancy wasn’t great. So I was a new arrival, had barely settled into an apartment a few weeks before morning sickness set in, without family or friends, trying to relearn the language that I was so rusty in and reacclimate to the culture that was now foreign again. It wasn’t a great time. And for the first time since I was probably 10 years old, I wished desperately to move back to the States.

Of course, that wouldn’t have helped me. I would have had to reacclimate in all the same ways there. But I panicked. And it’s only been the last few months that I feel I’ve come through to my final, fourth point—which is absolute appreciation.

I’ve had several moments where I grinned like a fool on the street realizing all I had. I am so excited that this is my real, every day, normal life. It’s like a dream. And whenever I have a moment of doubt or frustration, I just think back to those moments.

One bonus piece of advice: Never stop being a tourist… but don’t act like one.

Do all the tours, go to all the sights, eat all the stereotyped food, and enjoy your new home like every day is a vacation. But go further. Don’t stop at the café right next to the famous site. Go down the alley and find the hole in the wall. Talk to the waiter in the local language. Try something just because you’ve never heard of it before.

Keep the wonder of your new home alive… but always keep digging deeper.

You’ll never be disappointed.

Kat Kalashian
Editor, Live and Invest Overseas Confidential

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Kat Kalashian has grown up around the world, living in the United States, Ireland, France, and Panama, and has traveled extensively in her few years. Growing up as a young expat she is familiar with the trials and tribulations of an overseas move and the adjustments that must be made in every new destination. Living and learning through experience, she now considers no one place home and feels more comfortable in new environs than in familiar ones. After living in Panama for seven years, where she enjoyed living for a stint in the tropics, she and her husband relocated back to Paris, France, in 2018 where they now live full-time with their American-born cat, Panamanian-born dog, and French-born daughter. Her post as Special Projects Manager of Live and Invest Overseas keeps her busy… whether it’s spearheading a big new product, MCing Live and Invest conferences, or scouting out new locations for coverage, she’s always on the move and eager to discover new things.

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