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A Retire Overseas Challenge No One Talks About

This Isn’t An Adventure—This Is Nuts!

Kathleen Peddicord by Kathleen Peddicord
Dec 01, 2019
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One of the biggest challenges you’ll face as you launch your new life in a new country is seldom discussed.

I call it the panic stage.

No matter how long you’ve planned for this or how much research you’ve carried out, there is a good chance that, sometime during your first year in your new country, perhaps even during your first month in your new home, you’ll wonder what in the world possessed you to think this going-overseas thing was a good idea.

What in the world have you done… you might ask yourself.

You must have taken leave of your senses to have made this move. Paradise? This place is no paradise. This place is a nightmare.

This isn’t an adventure. This is nuts.

Moving to Ireland 22 years ago, my husband and I thought the transition would be transparent. We Americans think we know the Irish. They’re just like us, right?

No, wrong. They aren’t. And living among them isn’t like living among Americans in the United States.

Wherever you decide to chase your dreams overseas, even if it’s somewhere as seemingly familiar as Ireland, you’re going to discover that the people living there aren’t like you either, in ways that won’t be apparent at first. You’re going to find that life is more difficult than it was wherever you came from… more complicated and less predictable.

My husband and I arrived as full-time residents in Waterford, Ireland, in November. By February, I was sad. Indescribably sad for no reason I could identify. We were comfortable in our rental cottage on the river. We were making friends and settling in… setting up shop and establishing our business.

All was well, but I was miserable.

Then we took a trip to Nicaragua. After a few days on that country’s sunny southern Pacific coast, my sadness disappeared. What was going on?

It was the Irish winter. Though I’d traveled in Ireland for years, I’d never lived through an Irish winter. In Ireland in winter, some days the sun rises after 9 a.m. and sets before 4 in the afternoon. In between those hours, skies are gray and drizzling. The days are overcast and damp.

We treasure the memories of our years in Ireland. However, take note. If you’re considering a new life in the Auld Sod yourself, before you commit, experience the place in winter. Spend time in the country in January and February.

Or consider spending only part of the year here. Ireland is a place that makes good sense as a part-time retirement haven. You could take up a position in Ireland each summer, then spend your winters someplace bright and sunny.

That became our strategy. After our first long winter in Waterford, we escaped to the tropics every December and returned to the Emerald Isle in early March, in time to appreciate Irish spring and summer.

Years ago, I mentioned the phenomenon to a friend preparing to move overseas for the first time, suggesting that he should prepare himself for the panic stage he’d eventually experience.

And that he shouldn’t worry about it… because it would pass.

My friend smiled and nodded politely, humoring me.

It can be hard to imagine during the excitement of the pre-move phase that, after maybe only a month or two in your new home, you might find yourself questioning the move altogether. My friend insisted that it wouldn’t happen to him.

“I’ve spent months researching and making my plan,” he explained with confidence. “I understand what I’m getting into. I’ve thought this through from every angle, and I’m fully prepared.”

A couple of years later, over drinks one night, he remarked, “You know, before my move, when you talked about the panic stage that everyone goes through at some point after relocating to a new country, I laughed to myself.

“Panic, I thought. Why would I panic? The idea seemed extreme and, frankly, silly.

“But, I have to tell you, it happened to me. It was maybe a year into my move to Ecuador. I realized that I was feeling out of my element and uncertain in a fundamental way, unsure of myself and my new situation. I was experiencing a feeling that, I had to admit, could best be described as panic.”

I asked what he decided to do.

“I remembered what you’d recommended,” he said, “and I waited it out.

“I realized that I was feeling overwhelmed by the frustrations of living in the Third World. I reminded myself why I’d wanted to make the move in the first place and of all the things about Ecuador that I love. There are many.

“After a little while, the panic passed.”

Your panic phase in your new home could be a result of the weather and the seasons, as it was for us in Ireland. It could be a reaction to the trials and frustrating tribulations of life in a developing country, as it was for my friend.

It could be homesickness, which you should be prepared for. You’re going to experience it from time to time.

No country is perfect. Everywhere has its pluses and minuses. The minuses eventually are going to get to you. Living high in the mountains in Panama may provide glorious views and a gentle, spring-like climate, but you won’t be near a real city or an international airport. You’ll be living a country life among neighbors who, in this part of Panama, speak only Spanish. Sometimes the remoteness will overwhelm you.

Ecuador offers an extremely affordable cost of living, but it is also a Third World country. Retirement in the Third World isn’t for everyone.

Although it was our third international move together and our third new country of residence since we left the United States, Lief and I experienced the panic stage in Panama. We struggled adjusting to the tropical climate and to the inconvenience factor. Panama is working hard to earn recognition as a First World nation, but, right now, it’s not. This is a land where things don’t always work as you’d like or expect.

The key to being happy in your new home, wherever you decide to make it, is to keep your perspective and your sense of humor. When doubt and frustration creep in, as they will, remind yourself of two things.

First, don’t make any hasty decisions. The moment of panic will pass.

Second, while you’re waiting for the sense of panic to subside, remember why you chose this country in the first place.

Was it for the beach? Then escape to the coast for a few days of relaxation beneath the palms.

Was it for the super-low cost of living? Take yourself out for a nice dinner on the cheap.

What do you enjoy most in your new home? If you moved there for the fishing, then make time to go catch some and invite your new friends over for a fish fry.

Think about why you’re feeling uncertain about your decision. Once you identify why you’re second-guessing your move, you can address those points.

If you don’t like the current season, go somewhere else until it passes. If you’re missing family back home, connect with them via video chat and invite them to come visit.

If you’re not happy in the neighborhood where you’ve initially settled, consider another.

Be prepared, at some time during your first year of retirement overseas, perhaps even during the first month or two, to wonder how you could have done what you’ve done.

No, this wasn’t crazy, and it wasn’t a mistake.

Wait it out. The panic will pass.

Just on the other side is the new life you came to find.

Kathleen Peddicord

 

This article was first published in 2017 and has been recently updated.

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Kathleen Peddicord has covered the live, retire, and do business overseas beat for more than 30 years and is considered the world's foremost authority on these subjects. She has traveled to more than 75 countries, invested in real estate in 21, established businesses in 7, renovated historic properties in 6, and educated her children in 4.

Kathleen has moved children, staff, enterprises, household goods, and pets across three continents, from the East Coast of the United States to Waterford, Ireland... then to Paris, France... next to Panama City, where she has based her Live and Invest Overseas business. Most recently, Kathleen and her husband Lief Simon are dividing their time between Panama and Paris.

Kathleen was a partner with Agora Publishing’s International Living group for 23 years. In that capacity, she opened her first office overseas, in Waterford, Ireland, where she managed a staff of up to 30 employees for more than 10 years. Kathleen also opened, staffed, and operated International Living publishing and real estate marketing offices in Panama City, Panama; Granada, Nicaragua; Roatan, Honduras; San Miguel de Allende, Mexico; Quito, Ecuador; and Paris, France.

Kathleen moved on from her role with Agora in 2007 and launched her Live and Invest Overseas group in 2008. In the years since, she has built Live and Invest Overseas into a successful, recognized, and respected multi-million-dollar business that employs a staff of 35 in Panama City and dozens of writers and other resources around the world.

Kathleen has been quoted by The New York Times, Money magazine, MSNBC, Yahoo Finance, the AARP, and beyond. She has appeared often on radio and television (including Bloomberg and CNBC) and speaks regularly on topics to do with living, retiring, investing, and doing business around the world.

In addition to her own daily e-letter, the Overseas Opportunity Letter, with a circulation of more than 300,000 readers, Kathleen writes regularly for U.S. News & World Report and Forbes.

Her newest book, "How to Retire Overseas: Everything You Need to Know to Live Well (for Less) Abroad," published by Penguin Random House, is the culmination of decades of personal experience living and investing around the world.

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